Being in love, is much more than just having a bond, it’s about being able to understand each other’s strengths and weaknesses, thus compromising and experiencing new things. It’s about taking risks whilst enjoying every breath taking and nerve racking second of it. You’ll experience stages. Stage one, which will contain confusion but happiness and hope, wondering if your relationship could become official or whether it’s best off just left as a friendship. Stage two, is about creating a bond, enjoying each other’s company and enjoying what your partner has to offer, whether it’s a piece of advice or a new interactive activity or sport. Stage three, is like a milestone. However, it only happens when you feel comfortable in each other’s presence, you will be invited into their circle of friends or family and treated as a part of their life. Which makes you feel as if you have made an effect on someone; so strong that you become part of their daily routine… it becomes natural and almost perfect. But after this, just like most experiences in life, the outcomes are different and you are left to learn about them on your own.
You can go in one of two ways, the first way, falling in love. There’s nothing quite like the feeling of falling in love. Falling in love is different for everyone, it helps you learn and provides you with memories that nothing can compare to. Falling in love can happen over and over again... with the SAME person. You know it has happened when every moment you are awake you spend your time thinking about your partner or love interest. Or when the butterflies in your stomach are uncontrollable, to the point that you feel an intense feeling in your chest and mind, where you can actually feel some kind of energy that attracts you to the other person, and you start to look at that person like the most beautiful thing from any perspective. You wonder what they’re thinking about and then start doubting yourself, questioning if you’re doing everything right. You spend hours debating when to call them and what to say and when you do eventually pluck up the courage, everything you’d planned is lost. But despite if it goes wrong, you feel like you’ve accomplished something. It feels so wonderful. Like nothing else matters. You truly believe that you can tell that person everything without them questioning or sharing your secrets. They’re like your best friend but much more precious- like absolutely nothing could break your bond.
However, if you go for way two, which includes heartache, questions, confusion, sorrow and maybe betrayal. Don’t worry, everything happens for a reason and that reason will sometimes not be clear but it will make you stronger. There’s always a light at the end of every tunnel, so as long as you believe in yourself and continue to grow as a person, that light will grace you with its presence sooner rather than later.
-written by Charnai Bennett.